I thought ‘coming out’ was the expectation to be on the roof top of a semi-high building in a downtown core and shouting, "HEY GUESS WHAT? I’M NOT STRAIGHT!!" Then the surrounding civilians turn their heads up in disapproval and begin to shame you in disgust. Luckily, that did not happen to me! The first time I told someone close to me I wasn't straight, was in a Crabby Joe's on wing night. It was glorious experience, as were our wings!
I was extremely worrisome about the idea of coming out to the people close to me about being pansexual! I knew telling my friends would be a whole lot easier than to tell my selective family members. The first time I told one of my best friends was when we were out for wings; it was very unplanned. We were talking about dating, gender identities and the laws of attraction. I began to realize that my answerers, were probably not in the tune of which a straight person would say. I recall saying, "I think this means I'm not straight!"
After that conversation I indulged in doing some reflecting and researching. I came to the realization about the definitive factors of what my attractions are and aren't! I feel comfortable identifying as pansexual! If you're wondering what pansexuality is Here's a great video and a great article!
I've decided to tell people and create conversations about sexualities, because I used to be so petrified to do so in the past. The mere idea of questioning my sexuality towards people who weren't Cis-dudes, sent me into a wave of shame. We unfortunately live in a society where the large majority of people have this mentality where everyone is straight. Has anyone never bought you a pair of shoes at some point in your life and they were the wrong size? But you continue to wear this pair of shoes as an obligation. Perhaps the person who bought them for you never insisted you to wear them, but there is this expectation for you to? It's uncomfortable and hella awkward. That's what it felt like for me to identify as straight. (Of course shoes and sexualities are not the same)! I stopped identifying as straight when I was roughly 17 to 18-years-old. However, that sense of shame made me fearful of being outed and exposed. So, I was always so over the top and outspoken about my dating experiences with Cis-dudes. Now, I'm in such a happy and comfortable place in my life, where I can freely stand on top of any roof top and shout about being pansexual! But since I'm mildly fearful of heights, creating a public blog post will do just fine
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